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The spirit of adventure settles over us slowly sometimes. In the beginning, when those old winds of change blow, we turn our backs, fight, and resist. We just want things to stay the same. Gradually we let go of the need to control. We allow things to change and us to change with them.
We accept the change.
People with close relationships feel good, suffer less anxiety and depression, and are more fulfilled through old age. But personal relationships take some effort.
• Make time for friendship, no matter how busy you are. Schedule time with friends into your calendar.
• Don’t let a misunderstanding get in the way of a great friendship. Be willing to talk openly. Communication is key to lasting friendships.
• Make time for family and extended family. Plan visits with those who live near and far.
Stop depriving yourself of what feels comfortable, right, and good to you.
Some of us grew up in environments that were emotionally deprived.
Being happy and enjoying life wasn’t allowed.
Emotional deprivation was the theme.
Taking care of ourselves doesn’t give us the right to be mean.
Just because we’re telling the truth, we don’t need to tear people apart.
Sometimes when we start to own our power after years-maybe a lifetime of being timid and weak, we become overly aggressive trying to get our point across.
We can be honest with other people without being mean.
Be clear on what you want.
If you’re starting a business, taking a new job, learning a new skill, or beginning a relationship, state clearly to yourself what you’re looking for.
What level of performance are you hoping to reach? Stay realistic, but not pessimistic.
What do you want?
There are lots of hermit crabs in the tide pools near my summer house.
They’re interesting little creatures.
A hermit crab will find a shell that fits him, put it on, and live in it.
After a while, he grows and the shell no longer fits, so the crab scurries along the sea floor and finds another shell to live in.
He crawls out of his first shell and into the shell that fits his new needs.
This scene repeats itself again and again throughout his life.
Learn a lesson from the hermit crabs.
It’s easy to paint ourselves into a corner with what we’ve grown accustomed to expecting from ourselves.
Sometimes we can work so hard to build that career, get that relationship, or become a certain way that we start living up to an image of ourselves that has become outdated.
Stop trapping yourself.
Those goals might have been what we wanted then, but they don’t work anymore. And just because we achieved them doesn’t mean we can’t go on and do something else.
What do you expect from yourself?
There’s a difference between saying we’re not going to live up to other people’s expectations and actually not living up to them.
Other people’s expectations, or even what we imagine others expect from us, can be a powerful and motivating force.
We can feel antsy, uncomfortable, wrong, and off-center when we step out of our place.
These feelings can occur when we’re not living up to what other people expect from us-even, and sometimes especially, if these expectations aren’t vocalized.
Expectations are silent demands.